被疼愛和擁抱的孩子(中+English version)

首先想分享一個日本足球學校的訓誡文。

◆ 飽受批評的孩子學會責難

◆ 被暴力體罰長大的孩子學會仰仗武力

◆ 被取笑的孩子學會沈默不語

◆ 被譏諷的孩子將成為冷漠的人

◆ 受到激勵的孩子學會自信

◆ 被寬容的孩子學會忍耐

◆ 受到贊賞的孩子學會評價

◆ 體會過公平競賽的孩子學會公正

◆ 知曉友情的孩子學會親切

◆ 體會過安心的孩子學會信賴

◆ 被疼愛和擁抱的孩子學會體察世間的情感


暴力體罰的孩子會考慮對方不講理的情況,武力才是根本。被取笑的孩子會考慮活波開朗說話時被取笑的情況,沈默才是最合理的。飽受批評的人不會期望自己不責難別人,別人就不責難自己,責難別人才是最優選。

說這個是因為我的學生時代實在是——太一言難盡了。現在【不打小孩】大概是一個社會共識,然而這在我長大的地方並不是(攤手。

即使我沒有直接被老師打過,卻目睹過其他同學受到老師的肢體暴力。我受到的基本都是語言暴力。不過也沒有比前者更好。

有時候會想,是不是換一個學校環境,或是在生長在另一個地方,我就不會這麼敏感、脆弱、缺乏安全感。可能是因為我從公共教育中就沒有體會過關愛和關懷,所以長大後還想做個被保護的小孩,不願意成為大人去面對這個世界。 所以我也明白得不到鼓勵,面對譏諷時是多麼的無助。

(雖然我現在很擅長嘴人XDD)

說這些不是想要為自己開脫。不被善待的人,很多也成了善待別人的人,經歷暴力的人,很多也成了制止暴力的人。

至少以我的經歷來說,善待孩子真的很重要。至少Do No Harm。

在Amazing Talker學習的這段時間我遇到了很多優秀的老師,每個老師都很友善、溫柔。尤其是和Cinthya老師學習的過程中我感受到很多關懷。感受到學習可以是一種放鬆的過程,從練習中建立自信。(另一方面我很討厭補習班那種販賣焦慮的營銷方式,‘不學XX就一輩子沒出息’云云。這樣的方式只會適得其反。

希望正在學習外語的各位也能在AT找到適合自己的老師。我的經歷告訴我,適合你的老師能讓妳感到放鬆,給予你自信,培養你與人交流的勇氣。
而對我來說Cinthya是最好的老師❤️
謝謝大家看到這裡。🙏
【鞠躬🙇


English version


My school days were terrible. Now a days [Hitting (or smacking, slapping, spanking) children is WRONG] is probably a social consensus, but when I grew up corporal punishment of children was a really common thing.

I have not been directly beaten by the teacher, but I have seen other classmates subjected to physical violence by the teacher. Basically what I suffered was verbal violence but physical. But still it was so ,,, terrible.

Sometimes I wonder if I change the school environment or grow up in another place, I would not be so sensitive, vulnerable, and insecure. It may be because I have never experienced love and care from public education, so I want to be a protected child when I grow up, and I do not want to be an adult to face the world.

So I know how important it is to treat children well. At least Do No Harm.

During my studies at Amazing Talker, I met many excellent teachers, each of whom was very friendly and gentle. Especially when I was studying with Teacher Cinthya , I felt a lot of care. Feel that learning can be relaxing and joyful.

I hope everyone who is learning foreign languages can find a teacher who suits them in AT. My experience tells me that a teacher who is right for you can relax you, give you self-confidence, and cultivate your courage to communicate with others.
And for me Cinthya is the best teacher ❤️

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